{"id":21819,"date":"2024-10-13T04:26:46","date_gmt":"2024-10-13T04:26:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/new.findnews5.com\/?p=21819"},"modified":"2024-10-13T04:26:48","modified_gmt":"2024-10-13T04:26:48","slug":"21819","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/new.findnews5.com\/?p=21819","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"78954ae5fa42b68c1393fe3da4998882\" data-index=\"1\" style=\"float: none; margin:0px 0 0px 0; text-align:center;\">\n<div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1576712\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n\n<\/div>\n\n<p>Ja \u00e7far\u00eb shkruan ajo: \u201cSapo kisha dal\u00eb nga nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie abuzive dhe isha beqare p\u00ebr m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb vit, kur rast\u00ebsisht takova nj\u00eb \u2018djal\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u2019. Ai ishte pak i sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb, filloi t\u00eb b\u00ebhej tullac dhe jo ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht simpatik, por ishte qesharak, ne p\u00ebrputheshim me besimet tona dhe un\u00eb mund ta kuptoja historin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNe dilnim her\u00eb pas here dhe fillimisht b\u00ebheshim miq e m\u00eb pas partner\u00eb. Doja t\u2019i jepja nj\u00eb shans, pas shum\u00eb p\u00ebrvojave t\u00eb k\u00ebqija q\u00eb kam pasur me burra \u2013 nj\u00eb djal\u00eb i mir\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb ndryshim i mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cUn\u00eb isha me t\u00eb p\u00ebr trurin dhe aft\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij, jo p\u00ebr pamjen e tij dhe funksionoi mir\u00eb\u2026 p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bb U martova me \u201cdjalin e mir\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNuk e kisha \u00ebnd\u00ebrruar kurr\u00eb martes\u00ebn, por meq\u00eb ishte e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ne biseduam dhe pas nj\u00eb kohe (dhe nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb debatesh prej tij q\u00eb dukeshin t\u00eb arsyeshme) vendos\u00ebm t\u00eb martoheshim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMendova se nj\u00eb djal\u00eb i mir\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb tradhtonte. Se ai do t\u00eb m\u00eb vler\u00ebsonte, se do t\u00eb m\u00eb trajtonte mir\u00eb dhe se do t\u00eb mb\u00ebshteste pun\u00ebn time ashtu si\u00e7 e mb\u00ebshtes un\u00eb t\u00eb tij\u00ebn, besoja se do t\u00eb kujdesej p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb kisha p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb dhe se do t\u00eb m\u00eb njihte mes miqve t\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cIsha e lumtur, u ndjeva e vler\u00ebsuar dhe e d\u00ebshiruar \u2013 derisa u martova.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMamaja ime gjithmon\u00eb thoshte se gj\u00ebrat ndryshojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb pashmangshme pas martes\u00ebs, por kurr\u00eb nuk e imagjinoja se do t\u00eb shkonin kaq larg.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMenj\u00ebher\u00eb pas dasm\u00ebs son\u00eb, ai pati zem\u00ebrimin e tij t\u00eb par\u00eb. Por asgj\u00eb nuk m\u00eb kishte p\u00ebrgatitur p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb vinte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cBurri im punonte si konsulent n\u00eb nj\u00eb zyr\u00eb. Un\u00eb punoja n\u00eb departamentin e IT t\u00eb s\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs kompani. Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb kompania duhej t\u2019i prezantonte di\u00e7ka nj\u00eb klienti, por projektori u prish dhe un\u00eb mora p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr t\u00eb ndihmoja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cNd\u00ebrsa po lidhja telat dhe po p\u00ebrpiqesha ta vija n\u00eb pun\u00eb, shefi i burrit tim erdhi dhe tha, si \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb grua m\u00eb t\u00eb zgjuar se ti? Dhe kjo ishte r\u00ebnia e djalit t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bbNj\u00eb studim i vitit 2013 tregoi se nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb mendon se partnerja e tij performon m\u00eb mir\u00eb se ai, ndihet i k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuar, se burrat e interpretojn\u00eb suksesin e grave t\u00eb tyre si d\u00ebshtimin e tyre, edhe n\u00ebse ato nuk jan\u00eb konkurrente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bb Dy muaj pas martes\u00ebs son\u00eb, bashk\u00ebshorti im \u201ci mir\u00eb\u201d ishte shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb nj\u00eb djal\u00eb abuziv, kontrollues, indiferent, k\u00ebrkues, mizogjinist, pun\u00ebtor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ai i injoronte sukseset e mia, i n\u00ebn\u00e7monte ato, harroi dit\u00eblindjen time, nuk e vler\u00ebsoi koh\u00ebn time personale dhe k\u00ebrkoi q\u00eb un\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebja gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Isha b\u00ebr\u00eb shofere, kuzhiniere, sh\u00ebrb\u00ebtore e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cE lash\u00eb tet\u00eb muaj pas dasm\u00ebs son\u00eb. Por drama nuk kishte mbaruar. M\u00eb zbrazi llogarit\u00eb bankare dhe p\u00ebrhapi thashetheme p\u00ebr mua. \u00cbsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb policia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bbSigurisht e kuptoj q\u00eb jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u201cdjemt\u00eb e mir\u00eb\u201d jan\u00eb si ish -burri im. Sikur kur u martuam nj\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebs u kthye brenda tij dhe ai u b\u00eb nj\u00eb person tjet\u00ebr. Mos u shtirni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00bbPsikolog\u00ebt na sigurojn\u00eb se ekziston \u201csindroma e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d dhe se \u00ebsht\u00eb e lidhur me rritjen e tyre. 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